Monday, December 07, 2015

My first Rent The Runway!

I read about this website Rent the Runway quite a while ago and thought I'd never try it, though the dresses are pretty. This fall, I realized that I had nothing suitable to wear to my husband's company holiday party and didn't really want to buy something new. I knew that a new dress would sit in my closet for a year or longer until the next remotely semi-formal outing came along. Why not wear something once and feel like I got my money's worth?

Rent the Runway is not subscription based, so you can rent whenever you like for no monthly/regular fees. My dress was around $40 to rent for 4 days (that stupidly includes the delivery day, which means I got it the night before the event on Friday).

It took me a little while to pick a dress. I think everything was way too formal at first. I finally narrowed it down to two possibilities: a little black dress, or the Rainwater dress. Typically, you can't go wrong at any event with an LBD, but I wasn't sure how the straps & neckline would look on my broad shoulders. I loved the colors on the Rainwater dress, so I read through the reviews, saw that the bust runs small (a good thing for me) and went for it.

My dress arrived just before 8 PM on Friday. I tried on my first size and couldn't get the zipper up. I really had no idea what size I wore, so I ordered my usual pants size, plus the next smallest size. The pants size was the right one, it fit perfectly!


First, I got to be confused about the package that had arrived. A... bag? Let me tell you, this looked highly suspicious sitting on my front steps. I figured out how to unlock it, unzipped, and then unfolded. It's a garment bag! Inside were my two dresses, a return shipping label, and two more little zipping lock things for the return delivery. One was broken, but I fortunately only needed one.

Sorry I only took crappy iPhone photos.

Yay! So cute. You can also see my lovely haircut.

I figured black tights were more winter appropriate and I wore my so freaking comfy black leather flats. Check them out here

I snuck a photo with the husband. Trust me, he looked dashing. The tie colors matched my dress.

The last part of my ensemble was a silver scarf, which I already owned. I thought that was a nice way to lighten up the colors, plus it went well with the silver accents in the dress. My earrings are vintage silver and the necklace I've just had for ages. Oh I also wore my college graduation ring, aka. Galadriel's Nenya

Oh, sorry. Lastly, this is the make-up I wore, except a little less "wing".

All in all, I do recommend Rent the Runway! Return delivery was easy: find a UPS store or drop-box and leave the package there! They do the cleaning for you and I even got to keep the hangers. They have a pretty wide size range, from women's 0 to 22, which I think is great, though I don't know how many options there are in the higher sizes.

Thursday, December 03, 2015

Medication isn't so bad, for me

I just want to say that I'm sorry.

I'm sorry if I ever spoke disparagingly about treating any kind of illness with or without medication.

I'm sorry if I acted pretentious about treating any illness with diet and exercise alone.

And thanks for being patient with  me.

I'm back on an anti-depressant for the first time in years. I was angry at first, when I realized an episode of depression wasn't lifting and was just getting worse. A general physician told me to try anti-depressants before trying to pin the blame on anything else. It took a while to get an appointment to meet with a new psychiatrist, but when I finally did, she gave me something new to try. At first, I was encouraged. I really didn't want to try all the prescriptions I'd tried before because I didn't like how they made me feel. I wouldn't feel depressed, but also not really capable of joy. I could find something amusing, but couldn't laugh much. Without medication, the ability to laugh would come back, but so did the episodes of depression. In hind sight, this didn't change all that much when I used natural supplements to treat my depression either.

With the new medication came some really difficult side effects. At first, I thought it was helping, but I really wasn't sure. The doctor had told me it was her go-to prescription for depression so I trusted that it would be a good fit for me. Ultimately, it made things a lot worse and in an emergency, I ended up meeting with another doctor temporarily. He got me off the new med and onto something I'd tried before, but never on its own. After a couple of weeks, I felt much more sure that it was helping me feel better. In the meantime, I'd been meeting with my therapist again on a weekly basis. I felt encouraged just by meeting with that temporary doctor and feeling like they really supported me. It also kind of helped to have someone else say "That medication is NOT for you and should not make you feel that way". It can be hard to be your own advocate so it felt really good to have someone else stand up for me and my health. This gave me the confidence to go back and see the psychiatrist one more time: to get a refill and to increase the dose of the new medication. I felt like I could get a little more out of it, and a few weeks later, I was certain that was the right choice.

I'm meeting with a new psychiatrist soon because I don't feel comfortable working with the first one anymore (for a few reasons, mostly that I don't feel like I can trust her). I've realized that it's totally okay to look for a new doctor when one doesn't click with me. I need to feel comfortable with my doctors so that I can put my health in their hands, if need be.

From the doctor who gave me the working medication, I also got a prescription for something to help with anxiety. I've never had something specifically for anxiety before! Let me tell you, it's so nice to have something that helps quickly and takes the pressure off struggling with my own brain. Longterm, I would like to handle my own crazy thoughts with better skills and practice. When that feels too difficult, I have a real crutch to fall back on. I've finally accepted that this is a totally acceptable form of treatment for me.

I used to be such a jerk about using medication to treat psychiatric disorders. Maybe it is possible to treat them without prescription drugs, but I've tried and I'm not willing to do that right now. Right now, I have something working and I am lucky enough to not have any noticeable side effects. I'm not worried about any "what if's" right now, which is a new feeling! I've always been a big worrier due to my anxiety, but now I can tell my brain to set those concerns aside and focus on right now. Right now, this works and I don't want to try anything else.

To anybody out there who is treating mental illness with or without medication: I support your decision. Please do not stop fighting for yourself. Please consider trying different doctors until you find the right one that will support you. You deserve to find balance and peace in your mind!

Monday, October 19, 2015

To write a book... or not.

I think I first wanted to be a writer when I was very young. I can remember writing short stories, things I hoped could expand to epic tales or novel series, on my parents old Macintosh computer. We may have still had dial-up internet at that time. On and off over the course of my life, I've taken up the hobby of writing. Poems, prose, short stories, never much longer than that. And journals. Lots and lots of hand-written journals, whereas most of everything else ended up on a computer.

I don't have it anymore. Any of it, except for what survived my archived files from college, and that's just some work from creative writing classes. Any other computerized writing never survived the many transfers from family system to family system, and I think at some point, I went and deleted anything that was so juvenile it seemed "embarrassing". Possibly the worst travesty is my decision earlier this year to purge all of my hand-written journals, the contents spanning thoughts from over ten years of my life. Sometimes I maintain that this was a wise decision to forge ahead and try to let go of past events that I may be lingering over too much, but I clearly do have some regret over it. I guess have some forgiveness to do.

Many years ago, I re-read an old journal and was depressed by what I'd written. I made a rule then, and stuck by it, that I would never read anything in my journal again after an entry was written. The only exceptions were to reference dates in the most current journal. I can think of very few times that I violated this rule. I considered a few years ago going through all of the journals to extract some entries and compile a memoir of sorts, but that option is lost to me now. Now it would be half-fiction, but maybe that's not such a bad thing.

The earliest story I can remember writing is one about the cat I grew up with. I wrote that my sister and I discovered Mourka could talk and that she lead us on some epic adventures. She introduced us to our neighborhood friend's cats, who could also talk, but had been hiding the ability until Mourka deemed it was appropriate. At some point in the course of the story, I knew I wanted Mourka to rescue us from a kidnapper and/or vise versa, but I never knew how to get from the introduction to the action, so I skipped ahead, thinking I would fill that in later. I never did, but I think the story ended up being something like 17 pages in Word (probably your old standard of 12 point font, Times New Roman). I'm still impressed with that.

Perhaps due to my own arrogance about my creative writing abilities, I never learned a good editing strategy. Maybe this is a more common flaw among writers than I seem to think. The only writers that I've ever spoken to were peers, who always sounded so much more confident than I was. They knew more technical terms to describe their story composition or writing methods, at least. Some that I have spoken to are published now, at least with articles somewhere online, or still seem to write regularly. I'll admit that other people's successes tend to scare me away from even trying.

The prevailing theme behind all of my fictional stories has been some kind of rescue. Whether that was someone else helping the main character, or the main character figuring shit out for themself, they'd get a happy ending. It was something I couldn't see for myself at times during my depressed adolescence and it made me feel better to write about it or imagine scenarios while it could about. It took me a long time to figure out that I had to rescue me, I had to write my own happy ending in life (though life is a journey, not a destination), and really accept that responsibility. I still struggle with it. So I imagine that any book I'd write would be kind of in a journal form, with entries spanning many years, and inspiring hope in any young, depressed readers who might come across it. That's what I'd want anyway.

So. Among my many endeavors, hopes, and ambitions in life, I am adding back "to write a book". It might never happen, but at least I can say I tried.

Friday, July 24, 2015

Stitch Fix - July 2015

Today, I received my second order from Stitch Fix (referral link, I'll get credit to use towards a purchase if you sign up and place an order through this link). It's a personal styling service which will mail you clothes & accessories based on a style profile that you fill out. It also helps to keep a Pinterest board of inspiration images with notes about what you like. I first used the service in February or March of this year and kept everything that they sent me! I wear 4 of the pieces constantly, but rarely wear the bird scarf. I realize now that it's because I don't know if I like wearing so much black bundled around my neck, even though I typically like black clothing.

As you can see in the first image, they send you a styling card and a little note from your stylist about some of the things they picked out for you. I have until July 30th to decide what I want to keep (just under a week).

The first item was this clutch, called the Juno Small Folded Clutch. I don't really like gold tones for accessories or jewelry...or anything. It just doesn't work with my skintone, but the color of the leather is really lovely. I like the idea of having a small purse for just my phone and wallet, if I don't want to worry about pockets or carry my large bag. I think I'll keep this one, but I'm not sure. $38 (Edit on 7/27, decided to keep)

My husband helped with some photography.

I love this one. I popped on a skirt that I already own, but I can see myself wearing it with jeans, to the office, or...anywhere. It's very soft and flattering on my shoulders. I can also wear it in pretty much any season, which is what I requested for this particular Fix. Morlan Halter Top - Keeping it! $48

 Yeah, this one was a failure. It would definitely work better with jeans, but the garment was damaged anyway (the hem was sewn onto the body of the shirt in one spot). I didn't like the fit on my torso, it felt loose in a baggy way, unlike the cobalt blue top. Sending it back - Laguna Embellished Neckline Blouse, would've been $48 (Edit on 7/27: decided to keep, I emailed Stitch Fix about the damage and they offered 15% discount on it to go towards repair. I'm going to see if I can make it work)

 Okay so I'm sold on the striped Parma Open Cardigan ($48) though probably not paired with this dress, but on the fence about the Jakobe Chevron Print Maxi Dress ($54). I think the fit of the dress is much better in these pictures than I saw it on myself in the mirror.

I took this last one to get a sense of what it'd be like to use the clutch. Hmm...leaning more towards keeping it.

So if I keep everything, I get a 25% discount on the whole order, plus $20 off from my styling fee, and $5 off from a referral. That brings the total to $152, which is right around what I wanted to spend. But I'm not sure if I want to keep the clutch or the dress. I'm only really certain about keeping the blue shirt, the striped cardigan, and sending the black shirt back.

What do you think?!

Edit 7/27: I decided to keep everything and get the discount on the whole order.

Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Loneliness as a learning experience

"So I leaned into the loneliness, and when I did, I felt an enormous wave of love wash over me. I was feeling lonely because of the incredible love I have in my life, in this home. I missed my husband and my son so much, and in that longing for their companionship, I began to run through my mind all the times that I longed to be away from them--all the times I lost my temper or took out my frustrations on them.

It was icky and nasty, and I leaned into it. "

quotes from Neghar Fonooni, in a recent newsletter

When Hulky and I are apart, I get lonely very easily, but I have realized that there's a lot of love in that loneliness. Without the love that we have in our relationship, I would not feel so sad at my partner's absence. I have found the time to be motivated, improve on myself, run some personal experiments, all while looking forward to seeing him again.

"When we lean into [loneliness], invite it to stay for dinner, give it the room it needs to breathe--then we experience the freedom that comes from opening up to what's in our hearts. When we allow the discomfort the space it needs to dissipate, we can stop resisting, and start living."

Last night, loneliness caught up with me and I stayed up very late, watching Jurassic Park III. I ate a bunch of ice cream (Ben & Jerry's, of course) and cuddled up under the most fuzzy blanket in the world. I emotionally checked out and just let my brain rest. It was needed. Today is back to the grind and I'm feeling ready to take on a few more small projects before Hulky gets home on Friday.

If Depression was a pool that we wade in, and sometimes drown, I probably only get to my knees on the worst days in recent years. More often, it's just ankle-deep, and sometimes I just stand at the edge with small splashes on my toes. It's always present, I always see it even if I don't feel it. Just like loneliness, I am sometimes able to let depression just exist and explore it. It is in those times that I remember depression and feeling depressed are not the same thing. One can linger for weeks at a time, the other typically passes much sooner and is a lot easier to work through on your own.

I might think of my periods of feeling depressed as episodes of healing. They are short enough that I can't really do any deep-wading and I tend to make some helpful internal observations during those times. This is very relevant after seeing the movie "Inside Out" which was adorable, by the way. The primary message I got from it is "Sadness has a purpose." Sadness allows us to process our feelings and It's when sadness lingers and becomes Depression that it can be a problem, when we end up stuck wallowing instead of using grief as a way to heal. 

Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Living in photographs

As I journey through old digital photographs in an effort to tidy up my digital storage, I am learning unexpected lessons about myself.

There are many people from my childhood that I am simply done with. There are many faces in the photos that I am familiar with, but I can't remember their names anymore, or we never communicate (online or otherwise), or I frankly just don't care about them. It's hard with some photos to determine how I feel about them. Photos of former teachers? Do I really care about these? Would I miss them? I would probably not remember them if I got rid of the pictures, and that doesn't help me decide at all. In a physical photo album, we review the pictures periodically or infrequently and still appreciate them. As a digital volume, do I want to do the same? It seems absurd to keep so many. How can I really know what to keep? My inclination is truly just to hoard them all.

I came across the first photos of me with pink in my hair (the better version of the photo was actually taken on a film camera). I had been permitted, at around age 15 I think, to put a streak of pink in my hair. I felt so bold. I loved it. I love the photo that attempts to capture those feelings. I like being able to look back and know that's not a person I want to be anymore, while still appreciating who I was.

These photos also capture my varying and strange personal fashion trends. Most of them make me laugh now. I've spent many years trying to find a personal style without realizing that I have one already. I may not be able to define my tastes, but I know how to pick clothes that I like and I only wear what I like.

This article had me re-assess my current hair state, which is a somewhat more mature pink, as in much less vibrant (I didn't lighten the hair enough before dyeing). I don't think I'm done yet with fantasy colored hair. It still feels like me, it still gives me confidence. But I do recognize there are some inklings of teenage-me in my choice of hair color or style. I don't think that's a bad thing. Some things we take with us and some things we leave behind as we grow up. It can always change and I am open to listen to myself on this score.

I am realizing that choosing what (photos) to keep is less about the memories and more about what aspects of me I will choose to carry with me into the future.

Friday, May 15, 2015

Scents and sounds

I've always considered myself a visual learner and expected most of my memories to be tied to visual stimuli as well. While I do have a good memory for faces, I've found recently that scents and sounds tend to trigger much stronger emotional responses for me.

Lately I've been reading about aromatherapy and essential oils. While I'm dubious as to the claims of potential medical help oils could provide, I think that the emotional response by smelling something pleasant or specific (placebo effects!) is very real. I bought an inexpensive kit (affiliate link) from a brand that sells on Amazon to start myself off. While none of the oils on their own make me think of anything in particular, I am starting to get a sense for what scents go well with others and might make a nice blend for a candle or roll-on application mixed with a carrier oil (like fractionated coconut oil). It should be a fun little project, even if I don't stick with it. I've accepted that I'm a hobby hopper.

Scents that trigger nostalgia or pleasant feelings for me

  • freshly cut grass
  • rain on hot asphalt
  • this body product line that my grandmother has had in her bathroom since forever, the name has some 3-digit number in it; the scent is a combination of sharply floral yet masculine
  • Old Spice deodorant, probably because my dad has always worn it
I don't have particular memories associated with most nostalgic sound triggers, but there are some that I find oddly soothing.
  • plows in the wintertime, but only at night when it's really quiet other than potentially wind
  • lawnmowers, specifically make me think of the week or two before the fall semester started my sophomore year in college. I was there early for job training and the riding lawnmowers were out much earlier that I'd like, but it's still a nice memory
  • humidifiers
  • a shower running in another room
  • the sound of water running through pipes for a shower. When I was little, I would sit in the closet of my sister's and my bedroom (now my parents' room) and listen to the sound of the water running through the pipes/the shower on the other side of the wall while anyone was in there getting clean.
  • fan noise is SO soothing to me. I love having a fan or air purifier running at night. I think it's because it helps drown out any sudden noises that may occur outside so I don't get woken up by them
I guess a lot of the sounds I like are kind of variants on white noise! A distant lawnmower is something I could sleep to, as are all the others.

Monday, May 11, 2015

Sabriel Day

I was lent Sabriel by Garth Nix when I was around fifteen years old. My best friend at the time had really enjoyed the book as well as its sequel, Lirael, and I trusted her book recommendations. I don't remember if I immediately loved it as much as I do now, but I liked it enough to read the sequel and buy the third book in the trilogy when I realized it was already out. Actually, her little sister bought it for me and I can't remember why  now! I still have that copy and I still think of her every time I see it on my bookshelf. The original release date for Sabriel was twenty years ago today, in Australia.

The first book follows the journey of Sabriel, a teenager in a fictional version of 20th-century England, as she re-enters her magical homeland: the Old Kingdom. There, she takes on the mantle of the Abhorsen, which is essentially a law-instated necromancer, as she searches for her father, the former Abhorsen, who went missing. Accompanying her on the journey is a magical creature that takes the form of a speaking cat, Mogget. Sabriel's tools of her trade include a bandolier of bells, each spelled for specific duties against Dead creatures arisen by rogue necromancers, a spelled sward, Charter magic, and the Book of the Dead.

The second and third books follow other character primarily, so I won't try to summarize those because I'd probably spoil something. I can say, however, that Lirael and Abhorsen take place somewhere around 20 years after the events of Sabriel. Sabriel does make an appearance in those books, but she's all grown-up *sniffle*.

The heroines in books whom I find most appealing tend to be very self-sufficient and courageous. Sabriel is no exception there. She doesn't always makes the right choices, sometimes she pays for those mistakes, but she always finds a way through on her own. There are very few situations in the book where I'd consider her "rescued" by anyone. I've found that my own choice of friends over the years tend to have similar qualities: passionate, self-reliant, often gregarious or extroverts. Sabriel is not entirely an extrovert, but she is able to speak up for herself and take lead when needed.

Over my many years living with and battling depression, I've learned over and over that there is no knight in shining armor to save you from the bad times. You have to do it yourself. Sabriel represents to me someone who can take on tremendous odds and conquer them. While my battles are usually mental and hers are usually physical (or magical), I still hold her as a sort of role model for strength and perseverance.

I recommend this book to anyone who remotely like fantasy novels, especially to teens, but really to everybody. There are a couple more books related with the trilogy as well, such as the recent release of Clariel, a prequel that takes place a couple of hundred years before the events of Sabriel, and some short stories in two separate collections (one comes out next month).

Monday, April 27, 2015

How to overcome depression

Like I know all the answers.

Like I haven't been down that road and back a million times.

Maybe while I'm in the throes of another episode of depression is not the best time to write about depression. On the other hand, it could help, so I try. I keep writing this blog and talking about the same things over and over.

I overshare like it's my job, according to some. It's never been in me to do anything differently. Once you get me going, I will tell you just about anything.

The most important thing I've come to understand about living with depression over the past 13 or so years is


Depression is an illness. It would like you to think that you are worthless, that you should give up, that no one loves you. Depression is lying to you so it can thrive. Don't let it thrive. Don't stop fighting. Don't stop telling people how you are feeling. You may think that you are being annoying and hell, maybe you are, but you're more important than that.

Your life is more important than any minor inconvenience you may cause.

Talk to doctors. Talk to strangers. Talk to friends or anyone you maybe thought loved you, even if depression is telling you that right now, nobody does. It's lying, take the risk and tell them anyway.

You are always worth fighting for.

I put a lot of value on the life of every individual. I am not a supporter of the death penalty for any crime. I do believe that those with terminal illness have the right to die with dignity, but depression is not a terminal illness. It doesn't have to be.

Mental illness is devious and deceptive. Anxiety will let you think that someone holds a grudge for some tiny mistake you make seven years ago. It may lead you to stop talking to people out of irrational fear that something has gone wrong in your relationship. Depression will keep you from pretty much doing anything and it's so, so hard to get moving again. Add in suicidal thoughts and it gets bad really quickly.

On the worst days, which are thankfully not that often anymore, I think about the people I'd leave behind. I think about how sad they would be, how I would not wish how depression makes me feel on anyone else. I can't take the risk that I'd leave anyone else to that fate due to my abrupt absence.

I choose to stay and fight and sometimes it's the hardest choice I've ever made.

(Sidenote: I'm not that bad right now, please don't worry, I just felt motivated to write.)

Wednesday, April 08, 2015

I did a difficult thing this evening and threw out what may have been over ten years of handwritten journals.

Since I discovered The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up (affiliate link), I have been undertaking a project of decluttering my life from unneeded or unwanted items. Some of this has been clothing, such as things that don't fit, will never fit again, or I wasn't wearing because I really didn't like it or who knows why. Some of it was books. Actually, a lot of it was books. Most were my husbands, but we have about 130 ready in boxes, waiting to be donated. I tidied up my jewelry, getting rid of pieces that I stopped wearing a long time ago. The basic principal of the method is: keep what sparks joy. Unless the object doesn't "spark joy", but is functional to you, then you find joy in its purpose. You may not love your blender, but you can't afford a new one and it's damn helpful in the mornings.

I've mostly finished with my belongings at the new apartment. It was difficult to go by category, according to the method, because so much of my life was in boxes and bags. I ended up addressing things as I came across them and as I found homes for everything. We're still figuring out storage options and could really use some shelving. I decided to move on to a completely different category of "things I left at my parents house when I moved out several years ago". That was for my first apartment with Hulky.

A couple of weeks ago, I dragged some boxes out of the attic eaves and discovered schoolwork from middle school through college. Straight to the trash! I found a lot of knick-knacks that I had cherished during those times, but didn't hold much memory for me now. Only sentiment, and to be honest, I'm finding that somewhat detrimental for my well-being. I can't keep living my life dragging around memories that I don't need. So I threw a lot out and recycled what I could. Most of it was easy to part with.

This week's task was peeking into my old bedroom's closet, now my brother's closet. On the top shelf, I'd left several shoeboxes full of journals, shown above, and notes from high school friends. I also found two tutus, a pair of tap shoes, and the 35mm analog camera I used in my college photography courses. The camera stayed, but everything else went out. Yes, even the tap shoes. I am making a lot of swift decisions in this process, like weighing the effort of trying to sell something over the ease of simply throwing it in the trash barrel.

The journals were not so easy for me. I was tempted to read them, but I made a promise to myself a long time ago that I would never re-read my journals. I peeked at the dates on the first page of a few of them. I know that the black ones with the spiral spines were from middle school. I know that there are many memories recorded in those books, things that I have mostly forgotten, and I know that it's time to leave them behind.

Picking them up to throw them away, I nearly cried. I'm not sure if I can really articulate why this was such a difficult and necessary task for me. I have let my past and my depression hold me back for a very long time and most of those journals were a symbol of that. Many of those journals hold the record of my darkest times. I need them to be gone so I can know it's okay to move on. Depression may still be a struggle for me, but I am not the same person I was ten years ago, or eight years ago, or six years ago.

Here's to the future.

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

The mental benefits of CrossFit?

I've been doing CrossFit for over two and a half months now and I still love it.

Just a little bit longer until I will allow myself to buy some more workout clothes :). It was recommended to me that I stick with it for at least three months before investing in gear.

Well, I already bought new shoes, but that was necessary. My previous pair was pretty disgusting, despite washing, and got pretty foul at the end of each class. I couldn't get by washing my shoes several times a week.
My new kicks!
My attendance schedule has shifted a bit. Initially, I went twice during the week (often Monday and Wednesday) and then again Friday or Saturday. On Saturday mornings, they have a team workout, in which you often partner up with someone else. I have learned the names of a few people that way. This month, there's a strength program on Mondays and Thursdays, working on back squat and deadlift. Since one of my first goals is to deadlift my pre-CrossFit body weight, I have been attending these classes. I am also going on Sundays to open gym, mostly to practice push-ups and pull-ups (kneeling and with bands, respectively).

I want to go more often, but I don't think I want to sacrifice my evenings just yet. I also don't get enough sleep. I always wake up from the cats moving around or scratching the litter box or playing with a plastic bag...

CrossFit has become an amazing way for me to tackle anxiety. It's not just feeling ecstatic at the end of a class, thanks to the endorphins. It's knowing that I worked hard and did everything, with whatever weights or reps I was capable of. It's knowing that there are improvements all the time, like using a 20 lb kettlebell to warm-up instead of 15. Or not needing to stop and breathe after 3 burpees. I introduce myself often. I can't remember other people's names that well, especially when I might only see them once every three weeks if our schedules don't match up. Sometimes, I have to share a barbell with someone else in the class. All of it helps me push the anxiety aside and just feel functional instead of floundering. It's very empowering.

I want to be strong. There are plenty of physical benefits coming along with my new CrossFit endeavor, but those seem so minor when compared to the mental benefits.

I feel like I can focus better.

I feel like I approach conflicts a little more calmly, thinking things out before I act/move.

I partnered up with someone brand new to CrossFit last night for the WOD (workout of the day). I hope she had a great time. I think my enthusiasm spilled over. She asked me if it was doable to go three times a week. I realized that with my response (that's what I've been doing since I started a bit over two months ago), I became one of the people I spoke to during my first couple of weeks. My ice breaker? "How long have you been doing CrossFit? How often do you come?"

I'm so excited to continue on this journey.

Pssst! You can sign up for a free Intro class on Saturdays!  You can also join me for Bring a Friend on Saturday mornings :).