Thursday, January 31, 2013

How to plan a wedding–collect blogs?

I’m not even a week into my engagement and, I have a confession to make, I’ve been reading wedding blogs.

For months.

[[ducks in case of flying fruit]]

Okay, here’s the thing that bugs me about this.

1. I shouldn’t be ashamed for having dreamt of this! Hulky (yes, this is a legitimate nickname of his, and while I think I’ve referred to him by name here, I’ve still never asked if he’d prefer anonymity) and I spoke about getting married quite a ways back and agreed that we both wanted that, together. So, what’s wrong with a bit of dreaming? It’s not like I planned out the whole wedding on my own before we were even engaged. Even if I had, maybe that works for us and who cares what other people think of what I do (I do, but I try not to).

2. The blogs I’ve been reading have had some really helpful articles that have set some of my worries at ease before I even had them. Being someone prone to anxiety, that means worlds to me. I read the advice and think, “Man, I’m glad I read that, I know this is something that would have worried me!” Just in case that wasn’t clear and I needed to spell out the entire thought to you.

3. My writing style has evolved as a result (well, I think it has). I feel like I have a different approach in “speaking” to my audience. [[crickets chirp]]

And now, I share with you some of my favorite blogs. I fully intend to sign up for those that have resources and wed-sites (customizable sites that can be set up in lieu of invitations), but most require you have a wedding date, so first things first.

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Link love–on a Tuesday

It’s been a while since I did a links post!

  • Pony-fans and bronies alike… if you like LotR, you will like this shirt.
  • One of my favorite bloggers is pregnant! Congratulations, Kate! Go wish her happy things :).
  • I’m feeding my cat raw food. As in, I chop up some raw chicken, I put it on a plate, she eats it. That’s it. I’m experimenting with different sizes of pieces and cuts of chicken. I’ll go with different types of meat at some point too, but we’re only 2 weeks in. She eats chicken livers for one meal every week to make sure she’s getting all the nutrients she needs. The meat is never ground, to ensure she gets enough Taurine. I’ll start to incorporate small bones at some point, too. You can read more about raw-feeding for cats here. Fae gets about 5 oz of raw meat every day, which should get her to an ideal weight of 11 lbs. She has already lost a bit of the bulk that she gained on the grain-free kibble I put her on.

In other news…


I’m so glad GIF’s work on Blogger. I want to use this thing everywhere and for everything.

Monday, January 28, 2013

Donny, you’re out of your element!

Yeah, to be honest, I’m probably going to gush about the fact that I’m GETTING MARRIED for a while. Deal with it.

Or don’t, that’s your choice.

But this is my space to write, so I’m gonna write about it.

The fiancé (the novelty of being able to honestly use that word is going to take a while to wear off) and I have been day-dreaming about getting married for a while. Discussions started over a year ago, but life happened and we focused on other things. Towards the end of last year, it came up again and, well, here we are. Engaged.


Yeah. I made that. I’ve been wanting that image to exist and I didn’t find one, so there. I hope someone else thinks it’s as funny as I do. Even if they don’t, I think it’s hilarious, so it’s all good.

Discussing things like engagement parties with my fiancé’s family last night, I felt a little overwhelmed. Already? Yeah, that’s how I roll. I stress. I worry. And I don’t want to plan a party. I just want to plan a wedding. Somebody else gets to figure out things like engagement parties, right? I just tell them who I want to be there. That’s easier.

Our families still need to meet. Well, “need” is a relative term. I’d like for them to meet.

Telling my grandmother last night about our engagement was the highlight of the whole weekend. She told me I made her year. We’re pretty sure we want to get hitched in Maine, on my grandmother’s property. When I told her that, I got a moment of silence, and then possibly the loudest I have ever heard her spoken.


She was ecstatic. “Deeply touched.” There is absolutely no way I am not going to let this work, now. I can’t wait to show her the ring, I think she’ll love it. We’re hoping to pop up for a visit sometime in February, car-willing (it needs some work, and no, unfortunately I’m not talking about the Mustang, though that’s still not ready either).

Weather, clothes, transportation, parking, shade…cost… there’s a lot to consider with an outdoor slightly-destination wedding. We’ll figure it out.

I’m pretty sure I want a pig on a spit, though. Vegans, beware.

Sunday, January 27, 2013



Well, we had a fun night last night.


The dishes weren’t too bad in the morning. Not shown is the evidence of the 12 pack we destroyed, with the help of David’s older sister and brother. Or the (empty) bottle of whipped cream vodka which is OH SO GOOD mixed with orange juice. I recommend no pulp.

SONY DSC In the morning, I was outrageously happy, albeit a bit tired.


I think it might be because of this cool ring I got.



And for those wondering, it’s a 1930s art deco ring. Actually vintage, not just styled as such. 18k white gold.

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Just a moment.

The morning light was very familiar on my drive to work today. It took me a moment, but I realized I was being reminded of events from 8 years ago. At that time, I was beginning to make depression a part of my personality. On “sick days”, when I was really just exhausted and sick of life, I would take walks in the neighborhood. It was this time of year that I took quite a few days off from school, and I would take my camera up to the park by my old elementary school. I took pictures of the low sunlight, sunsets, myself, and the snow.

Today, in the work parking lot

Something about the light this morning just struck me as beautiful. Everything seemed highlighted in the most flattering way. I smiled at everything on my way to work. I’ve found that kind of light terribly difficult to capture in images, and it’s still my hope to do so, someday.

Sunday, January 13, 2013

History of piercings


This photo is clear evidence of why I save my drunken debauchery for Saturday nights. Meet hangover face. Open all day Sunday!

Today, I thought someone out there might be interested in my piercing acquisition process, seeing as I just got my eyebrow re-pierced for the 3rd time. Yup!

It started in a land far away (actually across town), long, long ago (when I was 12 or 13 years old) when I got my earlobes pierced. Like most young girls of that time and my age, we went to Claire’s, a cheap jewelry boutique. The piercers are not educated in hygiene, safety, or any real technique, and use disposable piercing guns. I don’t ever recommend that anyone get pierced at a place that uses piercing guns. Some places apparently RE-USE the guns, which is incredibly unsanitary. The guns are also highly inaccurate and I have known many people who had to abandon their piercings because they were pierced crookedly or too prone to infection.

For some people, one set of dangly bits of metal hanging from their ears is enough. For me, it created an addiction! (No, not really, just trying and failing at sounding overly dramatic. It’s that kind of day.)

Here, look at this, I’m busting out my gigantic external hard drive just for you mystical internet folk.

Monday, January 07, 2013

I don’t think it’s very nice to walk around my head all night.

Some nice purple tones for the cold weather:

How can I already be ready for Spring? My seasonal sensors are off by one. They have been since July, when I was desperate for Fall! I got all my Halloween-y movie watching done in September (mostly vampire flicks of the last decade). My Christmas cheer was done with the New Year, which I suppose is appropriate. I didn’t really get into the spirit until December, which I also think is appropriate, and then the thrill of New Year’s Eve passed, and I felt a settling back to normal. Now I’m kind of wondering what to look forward to. Valentine’s Day? We usually have a little date or something. I think I need to make a card this year. Then the boyfriend’s birthday (I already know what I’m making him), then nothing until a random day off (Memorial Day), then my birthday in June! Man, last year was so much busier.

What we found after a few hours watching Django Unchained.

With the snow that we got just before New Year’s, I suddenly felt myself in winter mode. It was outrageously cold for a few days (below 0*F at night) and there was ice everywhere. It was beautiful. Now I’m done with it. If we aren’t going to have continuous snow, I want warmth! I’m ready to see crocuses popping up! I want to smell (and sneeze at) fresh growing things! Love-sick sighs all around. What is with me? I used to only get all sappy about Autumn, now it’s just ALL THE TIME.

I’ve been thinking about our trip to DC last year. Hard to believe it’s just under a year ago that we did that. It was a blast and I really wish we could travel again this year, but I think we’re staying closer to home in order to save up. This is a year of settling & saving, I think.

Hey, I now have an email address just for the blog, so I don’t have to give out my personal one! You can reach me at I had to tweak it a bit so I wouldn’t have to add any numbers. I’m thinking changing the web address for the blog too, so I can get rid of the zero. We’ll see. I still need a decent header, but that probably requires that I stop changing the blog theme with the season.

Friday, January 04, 2013

Links & a plug for a free erotic serial!

  • 10 Ways to Deal with Uncertain Future-Anxiety – I could’ve used this advice at any point over the past, oh, I don’t know 8-10 years! Recently, I’ve been so content with my life’s progression that I don’t really worry about the extended future so much. I’m very happy with how things are right now and am able to trust in what I have around me to carry me through to the next great thing. This article has some great tips on how to deal with the anxiety over what may come.

thebossbloggraphic Okay, hopefully I can figure out how to get this on the sidebar of my blog or something, but ask me about The Boss! The Boss is (or is going to be) a free erotic serial found here. It can be categorized much like 50 Shades of Grey, BUT it’s not full of inaccurate examples of BDSM AND it doesn’t glorify an abusive relationship! I’ve thoroughly enjoyed Jen’s “in-depth sporknalysis” of the 50 Shades trilogy. I haven’t actually read the trilogy because a) it’s based off the Twilight books and I’ve read those and they were awful (and glorified abusive and unhealthy relationships AND glamorized them in a Young Adult novel to IMPRESSIONABLE YOUNG READERS which is NOT OKAY), b) I didn’t think I would be interested in a book about a BDSM relationship (just not my bag, yo), c) I don’t often read erotica or “romance novels” of any kind (only sometimes my bag, yo), and d) I’d heard some really terrible things about the quality of writing. Did these books have editors? I mean, the main character is/was an English major. It’s just awful.

Anyway, The Boss is going to be amazing. It’s going to be written well, be edited, accurately portray a HEALTHY BDSM relationship, and a healthy romantic relationship. How great is that! To be perfectly honest, I haven’t read anything that this author has published! I do love her blog though, and I hope you guys will at least check that out, if not the FREE serial. It’s being released on January 15th. I’ll be doing a review or something about it before then.

Even if you’re not into BDSM, I imagine this will be well worth the look. Hell, I’m not, but I’m gonna read it. Give yourself some perspective! Hell, maybe you're not even into erotica. Maybe you know someone who is (or maybe you just don't know it yet).

I hope I sold someone into checking it out. I mean, it’s free. What do you have to lose? Just don’t get caught reading it at work. That would probably be awkward…though I guess that depends on where you are employed.

Thursday, January 03, 2013

And guns and swords and uniforms

I’ve got some photos on my camera to upload that I think will be good for a blog post, but here’s some filler nonsense for now.
  • Our cat provides us with endless joy and amusement. She is fat, sweet, and adorable. I am working on remedying the fat part, but she’s always been a larger cat. Her coat is super glossy and soft since I switched her to grain-free food. Even more so now that I have her on a grain-free food with freeze-dried raw bits in it. Unfortunately, I’m fairly certain she’s gaining weight with it too. I think 10 lbs would be a “fit” weight for her. She’s about 12 right now, assuming she hasn’t gained more than she lost last year when I brought her home (from living at my parents’ house) and switched her food.